Ways I’m Exercising My Sovereignty in Dating

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There’s so much material out there telling women…”how to do this, that, and a third” 🙃 to get a man. So much of our existence and purpose, as women, was centered around BEING CHOSEN. We didn’t navigate dating from a position of power in recognizing that we are also doing the choosing. But the times, they are a changing…

I have realized that I’m a sovereign being. That I GOVERN my life and have the power to create the life I want for myself. This sovereignty is leading to a liberating paradigm shift and confidence in my love life. Prior to getting married, dating seemed so performative and all about me BEING CHOSEN. These days I know that I’m also doing the choosing so I’m approaching dating with a different mentality: one of a ruler.

Here are some ways I’m exercising my sovereignty in dating:

• I’m upfront about what season of life I’m in and what I want;

• I’m not afraid to as ask for what I want;

• I’m not afraid to probe and ask pertinent, relevant questions;

• I don’t waste time trying to analyze or make execuses for inconsistency;

• I’m not afraid to walk away from anything misaligned; and

• Lastly, I recognize that I can’t control another adult and I don’t try to. I observe, collect data, and proceed accordingly. (nerd emoji)

What are some ways YOU are exercising your sovereignty in your life?

Chic-a, The Self-Love Advocate

“There’s enough shine for everybody. Find YOUR light.”

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